How differently do I deal with conflict at work vs. socially?
http://peace.mennolink.org/cgi-bin/conflictstyle/inventory.cgi
Adult Personal Conflict Style Inventory Tally
(Work Environment)
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Calm: Response when issues/conflicts first arise.
Score Style
10 Collaborating
10 Forcing
7 Compromising
4 Accommodating
3 Avoiding
Storm: Response after the issues/conflicts have been unresolved an have grown in intensity.
Score Style
11 Forcing
10 Collaborating
10 Compromising
6 Accommodating
5 Avoiding
(personal/social environment)
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Calm
Score Style
11 Collaborating
9 Forcing
8 Accommodating
7 Avoiding
6 Compromising
Storm
Score Style
11 Accommodating
10 Compromising
10 Avoiding
9 Collaborating
8 Forcing
Interesting to me is that while at the onset of conflict I tend to apply Collaborating and Forcing approaches, both in the workplace and personal life, it differs sharply if conflict persists. Career-wise, if conflict persists I become if anything more adamant, shifting to more of a Forcing-dominant approach. Which is completely flipped when conflict persists in relationships or socially -- then, Accommodating and Avoiding and Compromising suddenly dominate. Could this simply reflect a lack of self-confidence or sense of validation socially, compared to the workplace? Hmmm...
Adult Personal Conflict Style Inventory Tally
(Work Environment)
---------------------------------------------
Calm: Response when issues/conflicts first arise.
Score Style
10 Collaborating
10 Forcing
7 Compromising
4 Accommodating
3 Avoiding
Storm: Response after the issues/conflicts have been unresolved an have grown in intensity.
Score Style
11 Forcing
10 Collaborating
10 Compromising
6 Accommodating
5 Avoiding
(personal/social environment)
----------------------------------------------------
Calm
Score Style
11 Collaborating
9 Forcing
8 Accommodating
7 Avoiding
6 Compromising
Storm
Score Style
11 Accommodating
10 Compromising
10 Avoiding
9 Collaborating
8 Forcing
Interesting to me is that while at the onset of conflict I tend to apply Collaborating and Forcing approaches, both in the workplace and personal life, it differs sharply if conflict persists. Career-wise, if conflict persists I become if anything more adamant, shifting to more of a Forcing-dominant approach. Which is completely flipped when conflict persists in relationships or socially -- then, Accommodating and Avoiding and Compromising suddenly dominate. Could this simply reflect a lack of self-confidence or sense of validation socially, compared to the workplace? Hmmm...