the impressively non-G-rated kisses that circusscreamer was giving a few people
That left me in a context bind... to watch (performance art) or ignore them (privacy)? It was uncomfortable for me, in that setting.
touch-interacting to a greater or lesser extent
Okay, but that's a foreign reference for me... I don't know what that means, in a group setting. Only one-on-one. Unless one counts being crammmed into subway cars with one's face pushed into a stranger's back, that sort of thing.
a lot of the touch seemed to be the half-subconscious sort that's about creating an environment
Hmm... I find touch distracting to a conversation, when I'm talking to someone. I feel like I'm not getting their full attention... there wasn't much, if anything overtly sexual going on, kisses aside, but just the existence of touching had a dampening effect on any conversing with the touchees.
exactly the sort of nonverbal negotiation that you'd expect from a case of sitting down next to someone and having it lead to cuddling
(palms open) I lack context, sorry. I've never done this, or had it happen to me. If I'm interested in sitting closer to someone, in their personal space, and a seat next to that person opens on a couch... I've always held back, waiting for an explicit invitation. Otherwise, I'm afraid that I'll annoy that person by sitting too close, and they'll dislike me and leave.
a whole art to nonverbally asking without really doing so
Probably. But applied to flirting, or cuddling, or social situations in general -- I'm clueless. I'm capable of standing across and pining for someone across the room that themselves is sitting ignored on a loveseat... because I don't know if they'd want my company, and don't want to bother that person.
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Date: 2003-06-23 09:55 pm (UTC)That left me in a context bind... to watch (performance art) or ignore them (privacy)? It was uncomfortable for me, in that setting.
touch-interacting to a greater or lesser extent
Okay, but that's a foreign reference for me... I don't know what that means, in a group setting. Only one-on-one. Unless one counts being crammmed into subway cars with one's face pushed into a stranger's back, that sort of thing.
a lot of the touch seemed to be the half-subconscious sort that's about creating an environment
Hmm... I find touch distracting to a conversation, when I'm talking to someone. I feel like I'm not getting their full attention... there wasn't much, if anything overtly sexual going on, kisses aside, but just the existence of touching had a dampening effect on any conversing with the touchees.
exactly the sort of nonverbal negotiation that you'd expect from a case of sitting down next to someone and having it lead to cuddling
(palms open) I lack context, sorry. I've never done this, or had it happen to me. If I'm interested in sitting closer to someone, in their personal space, and a seat next to that person opens on a couch... I've always held back, waiting for an explicit invitation. Otherwise, I'm afraid that I'll annoy that person by sitting too close, and they'll dislike me and leave.
a whole art to nonverbally asking without really doing so
Probably. But applied to flirting, or cuddling, or social situations in general -- I'm clueless. I'm capable of standing across and pining for someone across the room that themselves is sitting ignored on a loveseat... because I don't know if they'd want my company, and don't want to bother that person.