No. I've noticed person A approaching person B, and sometime later they're cuddled, but I've always assumed that it was because they were partners or exes or were otherwise already on "touchable" terms. It seems magical, in the sense that there's no observed activity and then *poof* something changes. So I haven't seen any identifiable nonverbal negotiations.
at this point you're asking for a communal space
I worry about bothering others by being in their nearby communal space, too, enough so that I hold back from asking for empty seats on trains and busses, likewise in restaurants.
It is now their turn to make a move -- you wait
Pretty much what I do, except that I wait for the other person to move first -- it's the only way to be sure that my presence is welcome.
if they do this enough to get a notable bit closer, it can be your turn again
I actually had a chance to try this a bit today, after lunch. Mixed results...
I mostly just look like I have clue, I think.
Don't underestimate yourself... besides, simply projecting expertise and confidence is 80% of the task, in other, non-social realms.
Have you come across this in your corners of usenet?
(grin) yes... a couple of years ago, after seeing it used for a few years beforehand, I finally asked for its definition (on alt.poly)...
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Date: 2003-06-24 08:57 pm (UTC)No. I've noticed person A approaching person B, and sometime later they're cuddled, but I've always assumed that it was because they were partners or exes or were otherwise already on "touchable" terms. It seems magical, in the sense that there's no observed activity and then *poof* something changes. So I haven't seen any identifiable nonverbal negotiations.
at this point you're asking for a communal space
I worry about bothering others by being in their nearby communal space, too, enough so that I hold back from asking for empty seats on trains and busses, likewise in restaurants.
It is now their turn to make a move -- you wait
Pretty much what I do, except that I wait for the other person to move first -- it's the only way to be sure that my presence is welcome.
if they do this enough to get a notable bit closer, it can be your turn again
I actually had a chance to try this a bit today, after lunch. Mixed results...
I mostly just look like I have clue, I think.
Don't underestimate yourself... besides, simply projecting expertise and confidence is 80% of the task, in other, non-social realms.
Have you come across this in your corners of usenet?
(grin) yes... a couple of years ago, after seeing it used for a few years beforehand, I finally asked for its definition (on alt.poly)...