ven if I'm still annoyed at one of them for something zie said (that pushed one of my buttons, hugely)... maybe I should start calling myself Jay again, in these circles.
I'm sorry, I didn't realise I hugely pushed your buttons. Given our discussions about this earlier while on a marsh walk, I thought even then you were joking. It wasn't clear to me that being referred to as "the other Brian" pushed a button.
I've asked Bryan to come up with another name I could call him, one has yet to be decided on. Hopefully that will resolve some of the confusion. Calling you Jay would confuse people at work, I think, so this is a better route.
One of them gave me a pleasantly-unexpected kiss, near the end :-). Confusing. [...] People that I'm pretty sure are indifferent, or just-friends at best, surprise me with affectionate gestures. I'm just confused, now. Nothing correlates, it's all chaotic.
Why are you sure people are indifferent? How do you know? It seems to me that these gestures indicate something about how they want to relate to you. It could also be the magic of the pool party, which has been known to cast a net of cuddle vibes over folks.
I think that, once again, you sell yourself short. You have a lot of good qualities and others see that in you. As long as you are reaching out, I think you'll find yourself being welcomed in. If you seem hesitant, then others may incorrectly assess what it is that you want and back off.
You're still learning the social dance. I think last night some people were showing you some steps, while others were expressing genuine affection.
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Date: 2003-06-29 10:03 am (UTC)I'm sorry, I didn't realise I hugely pushed your buttons. Given our discussions about this earlier while on a marsh walk, I thought even then you were joking. It wasn't clear to me that being referred to as "the other Brian" pushed a button.
I've asked Bryan to come up with another name I could call him, one has yet to be decided on. Hopefully that will resolve some of the confusion. Calling you Jay would confuse people at work, I think, so this is a better route.
One of them gave me a pleasantly-unexpected kiss, near the end :-). Confusing. [...] People that I'm pretty sure are indifferent, or just-friends at best, surprise me with affectionate gestures. I'm just confused, now. Nothing correlates, it's all chaotic.
Why are you sure people are indifferent? How do you know? It seems to me that these gestures indicate something about how they want to relate to you. It could also be the magic of the pool party, which has been known to cast a net of cuddle vibes over folks.
I think that, once again, you sell yourself short. You have a lot of good qualities and others see that in you. As long as you are reaching out, I think you'll find yourself being welcomed in. If you seem hesitant, then others may incorrectly assess what it is that you want and back off.
You're still learning the social dance. I think last night some people were showing you some steps, while others were expressing genuine affection.