20 years ago...
Jul. 2nd, 2003 09:08 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jayTwo nervous people walked through the heat and humidity in St. Petersburg, Florida and pledged to each other, in the presence of family and friends. I couldn't eat the lunch afterwards (mushrooms) and we were late to the reception after the best man left the church with my car keys... but it was still a happy day.
Two decades... seems bizarre, somehow. I lovepatgreene, now more than ever... it hasn't been happy-ever-after, it's been real-life ;-). There have been great joys, moments of terror, working together, periods when divorce seemed likely, periods of NRE/ORE, sickness, health, prosperity, poverty... rather than floating along serenely, at times we've slogged through like two punch-drunk boxers. Other times, bouncy and giggly and silly.
During those twenty years, we've raised three boys that I love more than I can express; gotten collectively 3 graduate degrees, including two doctorates; lived in Atlanta, northern California, and Washington, DC; bought a house; gotten a pilot's license; passed a Bar exam; gathered awards; avoided bankruptcy; kept each other sane and safe and intact.
There have been moments when I've been so angry that I wanted to leave, and friends coached me to do so. Other times when I've been so googly-eyed that I couldn't imagine living without Pat in my life. Perseverance, a degree of patience, pure stubborn bloody-mindedness and some willingness to self-sacrifice has helped.
I'd still marrypatgreene today. And even if she decided to leave me tomorrow, I'd still consider our relationship to be, and have been, a resounding success. And we're still growing and changing! Happy anniversary, beloved!
Two decades... seems bizarre, somehow. I love
patgreene, now more than ever... it hasn't been happy-ever-after, it's been real-life ;-). There have been great joys, moments of terror, working together, periods when divorce seemed likely, periods of NRE/ORE, sickness, health, prosperity, poverty... rather than floating along serenely, at times we've slogged through like two punch-drunk boxers. Other times, bouncy and giggly and silly. During those twenty years, we've raised three boys that I love more than I can express; gotten collectively 3 graduate degrees, including two doctorates; lived in Atlanta, northern California, and Washington, DC; bought a house; gotten a pilot's license; passed a Bar exam; gathered awards; avoided bankruptcy; kept each other sane and safe and intact.
There have been moments when I've been so angry that I wanted to leave, and friends coached me to do so. Other times when I've been so googly-eyed that I couldn't imagine living without Pat in my life. Perseverance, a degree of patience, pure stubborn bloody-mindedness and some willingness to self-sacrifice has helped.
I'd still marry
patgreene today. And even if she decided to leave me tomorrow, I'd still consider our relationship to be, and have been, a resounding success. And we're still growing and changing! Happy anniversary, beloved!
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Date: 2003-07-02 09:43 am (UTC)Happy anniversary, you two!
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Date: 2003-07-02 10:07 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2003-07-02 11:11 am (UTC)--Shadopanther
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Date: 2003-07-02 12:52 pm (UTC)Congratulations! Happy anniversary to you both.
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Date: 2003-07-02 01:59 pm (UTC)Congratulations to you and
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Date: 2003-07-02 03:30 pm (UTC)pjt
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Date: 2003-07-02 03:35 pm (UTC)Light without and light within.
And in all your twilights and dawns,
May the glow never fade...
Congratulations...~S~
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Date: 2003-07-02 03:53 pm (UTC)Happy anniversary! Here's to another twenty!
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Date: 2003-07-02 04:31 pm (UTC)May you both enjoy long happy lives with one another, with each year better than the last.
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Date: 2003-07-20 12:27 pm (UTC)Anyway, here's a belated happy anniversary, and wishes for many more.