My friends and sweeties are bright, competent, discerning individuals...
So they wouldn't care about you if you were unattractive and had no accomplishments and nothing to offer personally, right?
Ah... but in that frame of mind, I see them as caring in spite of my shortcomings, because I have other qualities they like. Or I'm their token rocket-scientist... not because the shortcomings don't actually exist. So the reality - internal feelings correlation is preserved, or at least rationalized-away.
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Date: 2003-08-18 10:26 am (UTC)So they wouldn't care about you if you were unattractive and had no accomplishments and nothing to offer personally, right?
Ah... but in that frame of mind, I see them as caring in spite of my shortcomings, because I have other qualities they like. Or I'm their token rocket-scientist... not because the shortcomings don't actually exist. So the reality - internal feelings correlation is preserved, or at least rationalized-away.
So this is close to me
(hug) I'm sympathetic.