I was thinking of the one in Brian's journal that said something more or less like "Oh, so this doesn't have ANYTHING to do with you!" concluding with, IIRC, something like "get a damn clue." Brian DID need to get a clue, and the situation WAS partially of his own making--as he has written here. Although the correctness of that does not excuse the nastiness with which it was delivered.
In the follow-up to my comment, I'll agree that that person seemed to be not allowing for any possibility of change. But they correctly pointed out that nowhere in Brian's original post was there anything that he said about change--it was all about regressing to older, warier behaviors, in fact. What *I* was commenting on was what I'd seen IRL, and I didn't make that sufficiently clear (until a later comment, which was probably seen as backpedalling and "spin" by many, rather than as the true statement that it was).
I will definitely agree that there seems to be a coterie of folk that have formed an opinion about Brian* that does not allow for growth or change. I can only assume that this is some sort of safety making behavior on their parts, since it seems otherwise inexplicable to me. Nevertheless, it makes it an uphill battle at best for Brian to see the necessity for change, and to implement it, given that he must fight a huge tide of resistance at every turn. Frustrating indeed.
* (and apparently they also hold unfavorable opinions about me and about Akien, among others, though I usually only hear this second-or third-hand--very few folk indeed have had the guts/temerity to speak about this to my face or even directly through e-mail or LJ)
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I was thinking of the one in Brian's journal that said something more or less like "Oh, so this doesn't have ANYTHING to do with you!" concluding with, IIRC, something like "get a damn clue." Brian DID need to get a clue, and the situation WAS partially of his own making--as he has written here. Although the correctness of that does not excuse the nastiness with which it was delivered.
In the follow-up to my comment, I'll agree that that person seemed to be not allowing for any possibility of change. But they correctly pointed out that nowhere in Brian's original post was there anything that he said about change--it was all about regressing to older, warier behaviors, in fact. What *I* was commenting on was what I'd seen IRL, and I didn't make that sufficiently clear (until a later comment, which was probably seen as backpedalling and "spin" by many, rather than as the true statement that it was).
I will definitely agree that there seems to be a coterie of folk that have formed an opinion about Brian* that does not allow for growth or change. I can only assume that this is some sort of safety making behavior on their parts, since it seems otherwise inexplicable to me. Nevertheless, it makes it an uphill battle at best for Brian to see the necessity for change, and to implement it, given that he must fight a huge tide of resistance at every turn. Frustrating indeed.
* (and apparently they also hold unfavorable opinions about me and about Akien, among others, though I usually only hear this second-or third-hand--very few folk indeed have had the guts/temerity to speak about this to my face or even directly through e-mail or LJ)