working on changes

patgreene has applied for a job in San Leandro with CafePress, the mug-and-T-shirt folks... I have no idea what she should ask for salary-wise if she gets an interview. The job entails some copyright and legal research, as well as requiring a level of pop-culture-savvy beyond my own purview. My guess is that it reads like an in-house paralegal at a small/medium-sized company, something like 50-60% of what a paralegal would earn in a law firm. If I knew what that was... Pat will need to do some research.

Then, if she got the job, it's a 34-mile commute (I *know* that distance... ;^) each way. Although they're located on Aurora Drive, down by the bayfront and OAK airport and Costco, perhaps 3-4 miles west of dawnd and akienm's house. And we'd have to find some kind of daycare for Kevin and David during summer vacation and school breaks, since they're too young to be left home all day. During school, I think that James is sufficiently mature to be able to watch them afternoons after they get home. And Pat would undoubtedly forgo going to Germany or Spain with me this autumn. Still... I hope she's successful. It would be great for her to have more adult interactions and some degree of financial independence. Even if that adds other stresses to our marriage, I think it would be the best thing for her, personally. And the job description seems written for her. :)

Last night's couples-counselling session revealed that yes, I tend to trust no one and keep my feelings to myself -- and revert to caretaking -- when under intense emotional stress and/or post-trauma. Bad old habits resurface, under heavy pressure. Which the past 2 weeks have featured. At least we're catching these and working on it sooner rather than letting me go along withdrawn and passive-aggressive for weeks afterward.

This weekend... few plans, as usual. Not much is happening. Kevin's ice skating lesson this morning, then I need to work on taxes. Tonight I'll probably go to a party with tenacious_snail, tomorrow afternoon is David's birthday party. Maybe I'll take patgreene out tomorrow night to see "Sin City".