Iain and I both have livejournals, and are not on each other's friends lists.
It's a bit of a weird situation because livejournal started out as something quite different to me than it tends to be to my wombat/alt.poly friends, and I still want to preserve what it was meant to be. Originally, it was a way of getting closer to a particular group of people at a particular time, and it's since become something like a mixture of that and a writing journal. When friends from other walks of life (very very other, to some extent) started adding me, I had to make a decision about who would be on my friends list if I didn't want to change the whole tone of my journal, and I finally decided on three criteria: people who a) are friends of mine, b) are readers of mine, and c) keep their own livejournals get added once they add me.
I've found myself really wishing the livejournal folks had decided to call the "friends" list something more neutral, because I'm certainly better friends with some of the people who aren't on my friends list than I am with some of the people who are. I'm not snubbing people; I'm simply trying to preserve the journal as the particular tool it was supposed to be rather than remaking it entirely.
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Date: 2002-03-07 06:44 am (UTC)It's a bit of a weird situation because livejournal started out as something quite different to me than it tends to be to my wombat/alt.poly friends, and I still want to preserve what it was meant to be. Originally, it was a way of getting closer to a particular group of people at a particular time, and it's since become something like a mixture of that and a writing journal. When friends from other walks of life (very very other, to some extent) started adding me, I had to make a decision about who would be on my friends list if I didn't want to change the whole tone of my journal, and I finally decided on three criteria: people who a) are friends of mine, b) are readers of mine, and c) keep their own livejournals get added once they add me.
I've found myself really wishing the livejournal folks had decided to call the "friends" list something more neutral, because I'm certainly better friends with some of the people who aren't on my friends list than I am with some of the people who are. I'm not snubbing people; I'm simply trying to preserve the journal as the particular tool it was supposed to be rather than remaking it entirely.
-J