Though I've vented here before, I would never discuss with him online anything that I won't discuss in person before, or very soon after I've said it here.
Ah. There's a difference... I'm a bit envious of you, in the sense of being sufficiently in-synch with your partners that any vent-issues are likely to be discussed shortly before or after they pop into LJ pages. Conversely, I can easily imagine discussing online issues that might not be discussed with Pat for months or longer.... particularly issues that seem irreducible, or potentially explosive.
And she has told me several times over that she doesn't want to know any of the details of what I'm doing or have done when I'm with another partner in whatever social setting. But then sometimes she wants to know, at least if I'm going out on weekends (concert last week with J). But not if it is during the work day (e.g., lunch last Friday with L, seeing N during airport layovers). So I daily waver between worrying on one side if I'm giving her TMI, on the other side worrying if I'm being too secretive. It's a lot of work... and could complicate what I say on LJ. To date, my approach has been to be generally open here, and if Pat gets too much information for her comfort, then she doesn't have to read my entries...
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Date: 2002-03-10 11:50 am (UTC)Ah. There's a difference... I'm a bit envious of you, in the sense of being sufficiently in-synch with your partners that any vent-issues are likely to be discussed shortly before or after they pop into LJ pages. Conversely, I can easily imagine discussing online issues that might not be discussed with Pat for months or longer.... particularly issues that seem irreducible, or potentially explosive.
And she has told me several times over that she doesn't want to know any of the details of what I'm doing or have done when I'm with another partner in whatever social setting. But then sometimes she wants to know, at least if I'm going out on weekends (concert last week with J). But not if it is during the work day (e.g., lunch last Friday with L, seeing N during airport layovers). So I daily waver between worrying on one side if I'm giving her TMI, on the other side worrying if I'm being too secretive. It's a lot of work... and could complicate what I say on LJ. To date, my approach has been to be generally open here, and if Pat gets too much information for her comfort, then she doesn't have to read my entries...