Mostly wrong, because I wasn't Talking About You (tm) per se, but about how I approach asking people generally. The more known-and-trusted someone is to me, the easier it is to hear refusals and consequently the more likely I am to ask for things directly.

Check your own personal experience... you and patgreene both tell me "no" on a variety of things, with some frequency, and I don't fall to pieces afterward. I even ask you for some things that I know are likely to be refused ;-). Or that will possibly annoy you by my asking... yet I will do so anyway with you. That latitude and risk-taking with you is actually a huge compliment and vote of trust on my part, whether or not perceived as such (smile).