Or I keep an entry private until I'm done with it, and never finish it.
Sometimes I unfriend people because they are too writey and they keep scrolling other people off my list, but then I go read them with a bookmark. I might make a friends-only entry to keep random nosy acquaintances from finding stuff out, and then I might not think to add people back to the friends list so they don't feel left out.
I keep reading stuff like this in people's LJs. Maybe I'll get out of the LJ business altogether, if it's so easy to be interpreted as "not caring" or "not liking" or "lying about liking," when all I'm trying to do is be a little more available to people and to keep some rememberies. [Not that I figure I play any role in your issues, Brian. :-) I'm just noodling off on some repeated themes I'm running across in LJ.]
To get back to *you* (heaven forbid): is there any chance that something about the way you live your life makes it *difficult* for people to get together with you? Or to get together with you on their own terms (which can be important to people sometimes)? Do you carry any extra burdens around with you (like, say, a jealous spouse or small children), that can reduce the freedom someone feels to make spontaneous plans with you, or to invite you out?
Do the people in question have weird issues like, say, not being able to entertain in their homes and needing to go to other people's places? Do they rely on other people to pay for them a lot, and find you unable or unwilling? Do they like to combine specific pursuits with sweetie-time, which the other sweeties like to pursue but you don't? Or anything like that, that isn't about your company so much as the comfort and convenience of spending time with you?
Anyway, there's no shame in reducing the emotional energy you are willing to put into a relationship with someone who you don't get to see enough. It just seems unfortunate to be drawing conclusions that make you feel bad, if the comparison is between apple-flavored sweeties and orange-flavored sweeties.
I do that.
Sometimes I unfriend people because they are too writey and they keep scrolling other people off my list, but then I go read them with a bookmark. I might make a friends-only entry to keep random nosy acquaintances from finding stuff out, and then I might not think to add people back to the friends list so they don't feel left out.
I keep reading stuff like this in people's LJs. Maybe I'll get out of the LJ business altogether, if it's so easy to be interpreted as "not caring" or "not liking" or "lying about liking," when all I'm trying to do is be a little more available to people and to keep some rememberies. [Not that I figure I play any role in your issues, Brian. :-) I'm just noodling off on some repeated themes I'm running across in LJ.]
To get back to *you* (heaven forbid): is there any chance that something about the way you live your life makes it *difficult* for people to get together with you? Or to get together with you on their own terms (which can be important to people sometimes)? Do you carry any extra burdens around with you (like, say, a jealous spouse or small children), that can reduce the freedom someone feels to make spontaneous plans with you, or to invite you out?
Do the people in question have weird issues like, say, not being able to entertain in their homes and needing to go to other people's places? Do they rely on other people to pay for them a lot, and find you unable or unwilling? Do they like to combine specific pursuits with sweetie-time, which the other sweeties like to pursue but you don't? Or anything like that, that isn't about your company so much as the comfort and convenience of spending time with you?
Anyway, there's no shame in reducing the emotional energy you are willing to put into a relationship with someone who you don't get to see enough. It just seems unfortunate to be drawing conclusions that make you feel bad, if the comparison is between apple-flavored sweeties and orange-flavored sweeties.