-- to keep from having to make anyone say yes or no. That's exactly what I'm trying to avoid... put on the spot like that, most people will probably respond negatively.

I don't want to wonder about stuff like that. Email isn't putting on the spot. They can have time to collect their thoughts and then respond. I feel people will respond negatively if you assume they will.

This is going to sound new agey weird but I find it true in my world. If I assume negatively it will ALWAYS end up that way. If I am positive about something or say, "yes this will happen, I can do it" It will happen and or I do, do what every the action was successfully. When we doubt ourselves or others it will never turn out good. I see this pattern in others too.

Plus I really do want to know if someone wants to spend their time with me or not so I know not to waste my time on someone who will not appreciate it. I want to spend my time with people who want to spend time with me. Whether it be frieds, potential SO's or whatever. My time and energy is too important to me and my friends I spend it on to waste on someone who doesn't want me around.

Maybe you want to think of it like that?