Thanks. You've struggled with much... I have less optimism, as there's no one for me to find.

45 miles is currently an LDR, functionally... 124 miles to Cloverdale is overtly an LDR. And while that person is connected to groups and people who are closer to me than 124 miles, she has not tried to integrate us. One of the reasons behind a past breakup there, actually. I don't do well if any partner of mine is connected in ways that don't welcome (or at least tolerate) me as well.