When I made up the guest list I chose people that we have been in that kind of setting with before who we know really well. I've met you in person, maybe three times, all at large gatherings. Yes, inviting you to a party would mean I/we'd get to know you better. But to invite you to an intimate sex party in a very small space when I don't know you that well is inconsistent for me.

That was not a slight against you. That was careful choosing for me to maintain security for myself and those attending with people we've engaged with before. Granted some may have attended such kinds of parties with you themselves but neither *I* nor *coyote3502* had. We *do* understand that feeling of wanting to be at regular parties. We aren't on the S&P list, but we also understand the circumstances, so I hope you can understand these.

I know you're on the Wine and Song list. If you're on our friends list, you can see it. I haven't seen you respond to coming to that party yet.