And A's net STD risk goes up overall, without A having any additional benefit or fun themselves.
[...]
But, rationally, what's in it for A?
I have additional benefit and fun when my partners have new partners:
I get to see someone I love all happy and bubbly.
I sometimes get to have more alone-time, or more time with my other partners, which I like.
Often, the person with the new relationship is extra-sweet and accommodating, in order to be sure not to be a burden. Call me selfish, but I like it when my partners are extra-sweet.
In my life, it has almost always been the case that when a partner gets a new sweetie, I get an interesting new friend.
Sometimes (but I don't care that much about this one), the new sweetie will do stuff with my partner that I'm not that interested in, leaving me free to do the stuff I *am* interested in with that partner.
Not saying it's this way for you, just that in my life, new loves for my partners are generally a good thing.
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Date: 2004-10-18 04:03 pm (UTC)And A's net STD risk goes up overall, without A having any additional benefit or fun themselves.
[...]
But, rationally, what's in it for A?
I have additional benefit and fun when my partners have new partners:
Not saying it's this way for you, just that in my life, new loves for my partners are generally a good thing.