Someone's willingness to try poly might then balance on the magnitude of the loss(es) vs. that person's probability of finding other connections themselves.
Right, or on the magnitude of perceived losses, whether or not they exist.
Not that there isn't lots of cause for jealousy in the mainstream -- looks at daytime TV
Oh, there's a realistic example. ;)
but with more-frequent, ongoing connections, I think that poly is particularly jealousy-provoking, potentially.
Potentially. And the more I drive my car, the more risk I take of severe, live-changing collision -- but I wear my seatbelt, drive defensively, and make sure my tires are good.
Hence the socialized "jealousy is bad" response in poly circles...
Some poly circles, and then only some people in them.
There are only a couple of Bruce Springsteen songs I really hate. If I focused on those, I could say, "Bruce plays songs I hate." But mostly, he doesn't. I listen to all of them once or twice, then I pay attention to the ones I like
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Right, or on the magnitude of perceived losses, whether or not they exist.
Not that there isn't lots of cause for jealousy in the mainstream -- looks at daytime TV
Oh, there's a realistic example. ;)
but with more-frequent, ongoing connections, I think that poly is particularly jealousy-provoking, potentially.
Potentially. And the more I drive my car, the more risk I take of severe, live-changing collision -- but I wear my seatbelt, drive defensively, and make sure my tires are good.
Hence the socialized "jealousy is bad" response in poly circles...
Some poly circles, and then only some people in them.
There are only a couple of Bruce Springsteen songs I really hate. If I focused on those, I could say, "Bruce plays songs I hate." But mostly, he doesn't. I listen to all of them once or twice, then I pay attention to the ones I like