Which is it? And unless they're your primary, I don't think it's reasonable to expect to get a blow-by-blow of anything that they do with their sweetie.
Danny and I, as primaries, let our OSOs know up-front that "anything you do with me, Danny (or Griff) will know about. We keep nothing from each other when it comes to what goes on between us and our OSOs." That's a rule we have. Now, if you're telling me something personal that doesn't relate to Danny, and you're my OSO, that isn't the same as you and me doing something together and me telling him about it. But that's our main rule.
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
no subject
Date: 2004-10-25 06:06 am (UTC)Which is it? And unless they're your primary, I don't think it's reasonable to expect to get a blow-by-blow of anything that they do with their sweetie.
Danny and I, as primaries, let our OSOs know up-front that "anything you do with me, Danny (or Griff) will know about. We keep nothing from each other when it comes to what goes on between us and our OSOs." That's a rule we have. Now, if you're telling me something personal that doesn't relate to Danny, and you're my OSO, that isn't the same as you and me doing something together and me telling him about it. But that's our main rule.
You have to honor their boundaries too, Brian.