So you feel that you have to be "doing something" in order for it to be love? That's what you seem to be saying, that just knowing that your partner loves you and cares about you isn't good enough for you. You want X hours every week devoted solely to you, or you're not happy - at least, that's how this reads from where I'm sitting.
In which case, you *are* conflating love and caring with time and energy.
Do you know how often I have contact with mhw? Maybe once or twice a week, in LJ comments lately. Does that mean he doesn't love me and care about me, from your point of view? Or that I don't love him or care about him?
Time does not equal love to most people, and the people that it does equal that to usually see it as a zero-sum game.
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Date: 2004-10-25 06:23 am (UTC)So you feel that you have to be "doing something" in order for it to be love? That's what you seem to be saying, that just knowing that your partner loves you and cares about you isn't good enough for you. You want X hours every week devoted solely to you, or you're not happy - at least, that's how this reads from where I'm sitting.
In which case, you *are* conflating love and caring with time and energy.
Do you know how often I have contact with
Time does not equal love to most people, and the people that it does equal that to usually see it as a zero-sum game.