um, well, you'd told me you'd be at my house at 6, our agreement is that you will call if you are going to be more than twenty minutes late, and you called me at 7:15 to verify the alarm code. By my count, that is 75 minutes late, not 30.
I know that my feelings about what it means when someone is late (that I am unimportant, that they don't care about me, that they don't respect me, and have no interest in making me happy) *are* my feelings, and not the truth, but the feelings do need to be worked through.
Last night, I believed, you learned some things about how I define "late", and when the "please call me" agreement kicks in.
(I was also having a crummy night, though, and was feeling like I was trying to meet other people's expectations, and not getting credit for the work and effort I was putting in).
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I know that my feelings about what it means when someone is late (that I am unimportant, that they don't care about me, that they don't respect me, and have no interest in making me happy) *are* my feelings, and not the truth, but the feelings do need to be worked through.
Last night, I believed, you learned some things about how I define "late", and when the "please call me" agreement kicks in.
(I was also having a crummy night, though, and was feeling like I was trying to meet other people's expectations, and not getting credit for the work and effort I was putting in).