(nods) OTOH, moving is something that is obviously much greater than any one person can handle alone, so there's no expectation of self-reliance. One needs either friends or a moving company.
Even interdependence sounds like it includes elements of dependence, and hence loss of control.
I think that might not have been clear in your original posts.
Agreed, it wasn't clear. But that's also because it did not occur to me that others would see those posts and offer assistance... they were "life scrapes right now, for these reasons" posts, not asking for anything.
Monday... we'll see. patgreene has some mobility now, so we may be able to just work through things here.
And... I already often feel like I'm running a net deficit, that people are being nice to me just by tolerating my presence or existence in their midst. Adding too much additional bother to that could make me a nuisance and cause the community to cast me away.
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(nods) OTOH, moving is something that is obviously much greater than any one person can handle alone, so there's no expectation of self-reliance. One needs either friends or a moving company.
Even interdependence sounds like it includes elements of dependence, and hence loss of control.
I think that might not have been clear in your original posts.
Agreed, it wasn't clear. But that's also because it did not occur to me that others would see those posts and offer assistance... they were "life scrapes right now, for these reasons" posts, not asking for anything.
Monday... we'll see.
And... I already often feel like I'm running a net deficit, that people are being nice to me just by tolerating my presence or existence in their midst. Adding too much additional bother to that could make me a nuisance and cause the community to cast me away.