Brian, I'm sorry to hear you are facing such problems now. *hug*
I also think it is abusive to demand control over another person's social contracts as well. And overall, it's one thing to ask your partner to do something -- and quite another to demand that one's partner do it...or else. In leaving you no middle ground, there is no room for negotiation and consideration for your needs -- which are important too.
I know a few people who have had to deal with custody battles where polyamory was an issue. It is never an easy battle, though some of them have found support and ways of handling the situation which are better-than-Tennessee average. If you would like references from them, please contact me in email. Take care of yourself, and I hope things get better.
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Date: 2001-10-28 12:22 pm (UTC)I also think it is abusive to demand control over another person's social contracts as well. And overall, it's one thing to ask your partner to do something -- and quite another to demand that one's partner do it...or else. In leaving you no middle ground, there is no room for negotiation and consideration for your needs -- which are important too.
I know a few people who have had to deal with custody battles where polyamory was an issue. It is never an easy battle, though some of them have found support and ways of handling the situation which are better-than-Tennessee average. If you would like references from them, please contact me in email. Take care of yourself, and I hope things get better.