Well, I'm certainly not a pagan myself, or particularly pagan-sympathetic. I'd like to find some way to wish others with different belief-structures their happiness, while making it clear that I don't subscribe to that particular belief-structure myself. Someone replying "happy solstice!" back to me in return would probably draw a blank stare.

For that matter, I'm ambivalent about Christmas trees, given how/where they originated. And much secular emphasis on gift-giving seems driven by economics and consumerism, not contemplation or faith.

I doubt I'd call you, or someone else, on the carpet if I thought it appropriate. Too direct and blunt and conflicting of a communication style for me to feel comfortable jumping in that way with a friend, or even a sweetie.