Yeah, exactly. There's this weird thing with individuation. I mean, I still feel terrible about the time my kid was bitten by a dog when I wasn't there to protect him. But then again, I'm so happy that he dealt with it, did what he could to help himself, and came out of it without being terrified of dogs. Now he knows he can deal with some really scary stuff without a grown-up to save him, but I still wish I'd been there to save him, you know? And I *know* my mom feels the same way about the time I was stabbed when she was a block away, asleep in her bed.