Well, yes, I too am one of those people who easily imagines horrible things have happened to people who are late. Even when I *know* that in all likelihood, everything's okay. I hate the stress...
But in all honesty, I don't think that was what was going on, not completely. I think it was more a matter of expectations: he said he would be home by x, which I thought would give me time to talk to him and reconnect a bit, go over the kids' schedule for the next week, etc. before bed (I need more sleep than Brian does.) Since I did not communicate these expectations, he really had no way of knowing about them. (Yes, I know.... communication, communication, communication...) I think it was a combination of loneliness, disappointed expectations, uncertainty, and fear/stress that led me to be grumpy. Plus a vague feeling of being taken advantage of -- I was supportive of him going to this event (and still think it was a good thing he went), and he didn't call to check in when his plans for coming home changed.
Having said all that, I must say, I'm glad people liked the cobbler : > It did sound like a fun party, and I would have loved to have gone, but the next day was a school day. Also, David has a fair amount of trouble understanding appropriate social behavior around people anyway, so I'm a little wary of introducing new variables by taking him to someplace where clothing optional activities are occuring. And James disapproves of nakedness in general -- his own or anyone else's. (If the boy could take a shower with his clothes on, he probably would.) Kevin would have had no problem -- he's a clothing optional kid. (Mental image from earlier this year: when Nickelodeon played "Jimmy Neutron: When Pants Attack", Kevin stripped completely and ran around the house screaming that his pants were after him, before collapsing in a fit of hysterical giggling in the living room.)
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Re: lateness and worrying
Date: 2002-09-06 09:15 am (UTC)But in all honesty, I don't think that was what was going on, not completely. I think it was more a matter of expectations: he said he would be home by x, which I thought would give me time to talk to him and reconnect a bit, go over the kids' schedule for the next week, etc. before bed (I need more sleep than Brian does.) Since I did not communicate these expectations, he really had no way of knowing about them. (Yes, I know.... communication, communication, communication...) I think it was a combination of loneliness, disappointed expectations, uncertainty, and fear/stress that led me to be grumpy. Plus a vague feeling of being taken advantage of -- I was supportive of him going to this event (and still think it was a good thing he went), and he didn't call to check in when his plans for coming home changed.
Having said all that, I must say, I'm glad people liked the cobbler : > It did sound like a fun party, and I would have loved to have gone, but the next day was a school day. Also, David has a fair amount of trouble understanding appropriate social behavior around people anyway, so I'm a little wary of introducing new variables by taking him to someplace where clothing optional activities are occuring. And James disapproves of nakedness in general -- his own or anyone else's. (If the boy could take a shower with his clothes on, he probably would.) Kevin would have had no problem -- he's a clothing optional kid. (Mental image from earlier this year: when Nickelodeon played "Jimmy Neutron: When Pants Attack", Kevin stripped completely and ran around the house screaming that his pants were after him, before collapsing in a fit of hysterical giggling in the living room.)