A strange feeling...

[jay]

A sweetie of mine today sent me an email. "...since you don't like to ask for help, I thought I'd ask for some as a way to generate ideas."

And she posted a question. And received a warm and supportive response, from her friends, who naturally assumed that it was something of concern to her. And there were, in fact, some useful ideas there for me.

It's a strange feeling watching the difference in responses over there, though, compared to the kinds of responses, or lack thereof, over here when I ask for advice. I can't help but wonder how it would have been different if I'd directly posted exactly the same question in my own journal. Some people would not have replied, certainly. Others I feel would have been less likely to offer their comments or help. And there's a nagging feeling that I would have been somehow "made to be wrong" or criticized if I'd opened myself up in exactly the same way.

Still, this was a loving and supportive act on my sweetie's part, even if I feel a bit sheepish... would these people have been as helpful if they'd known?

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PS: On the subject of more information = better, I wrote a post a little while ago that was, in effect, a short autobiography. There isn't anything in there that I wouldn't wish you to see. I am aware of your difficulty in confronting certain issues related to transsexuality -- there is some of that in there, but broadly speaking the post actually is there specifically so that people can get some idea of my history, what made me who I am, and to an extent, who I am now.

I've added you to the filter -- initially you weren't on it at your own request. If you don't want to read the post, there is no requirement for you to do so, it's backdated quite a while so you're unlikely to happen upon it by accident. But, nevertheless, you are very welcome to read it if you so choose.

(For anyone else interested, it's a locked/filtered post on my LJ -- if you're on my friends list you can probably read it already, but if not, send me some email and I'll almost certainly give you access to it)