Would it be visible if I were sitting across a table, chatting with that person? If it is hidden damage, I don't react to it. Bitten nails I don't notice at all... large visible moles would be a distraction, as would large scars or tics. That doesn't mean I wouldn't be friends with or enjoy the company of that person, only that I'm less likely to have an initial physical attraction to them. Over time, I tend to get used to those things and ignore them, if the connection with the underlying person is strong and frequent.
Disablements haven't been an issue, per se, although I'm more likely to view that person initially as a potential friend-in-need rather than a possible playmate. If I met an attractive person confined to a wheelchair, say, I'd need to get to know them better and then figure out ways to work with the disability, before I could get through my own internal blocks and filters and be open to being more than just-friends...
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Date: 2002-10-07 02:06 pm (UTC)Disablements haven't been an issue, per se, although I'm more likely to view that person initially as a potential friend-in-need rather than a possible playmate. If I met an attractive person confined to a wheelchair, say, I'd need to get to know them better and then figure out ways to work with the disability, before I could get through my own internal blocks and filters and be open to being more than just-friends...