Much of my avoid-bothering-others behavior is [...] driven by "I don't trust you enough to give you any kind of hold over me."
Why do you believe that interacting with someone, in many cases, gives zir a hold over you? Is it that you feel beholden inside, or that you grew up with a cultural value that says all interactions carry obligations, or something else?
I also have a feeling of obligation when I interact with people in relatively innocuous ways, but I think most people don't share this feeling and so I've come to think that I am "over-obligating myself" and trying to figure out how to change my feelings so that I can enjoy more kinds of interactions without feeling burdened.
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Much of my avoid-bothering-others behavior is [...] driven by "I don't trust you enough to give you any kind of hold over me."
Why do you believe that interacting with someone, in many cases, gives zir a hold over you? Is it that you feel beholden inside, or that you grew up with a cultural value that says all interactions carry obligations, or something else?
I also have a feeling of obligation when I interact with people in relatively innocuous ways, but I think most people don't share this feeling and so I've come to think that I am "over-obligating myself" and trying to figure out how to change my feelings so that I can enjoy more kinds of interactions without feeling burdened.