And think about this: if therefore I must ask *you* to lunch, I'm the one incurring the risk of rejection. That in itself is doing you a favor, sparing you the need to take that risk yourself. I should think by your philosophy that would put you in my debt. Even if you say no to the offer. Then what?
Thus, the success of your philosophy depends on the other person NOT holding the same philosophy. Sounds like a doomed proposition to me. Friendship is about give AND take, without either side keeping count of who has done more.
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Date: 2002-11-22 11:14 am (UTC)And think about this: if therefore I must ask *you* to lunch, I'm the one incurring the risk of rejection. That in itself is doing you a favor, sparing you the need to take that risk yourself. I should think by your philosophy that would put you in my debt. Even if you say no to the offer. Then what?
Thus, the success of your philosophy depends on the other person NOT holding the same philosophy. Sounds like a doomed proposition to me. Friendship is about give AND take, without either side keeping count of who has done more.