To be less of a wiseass: If others hadn't responded saying they'd be interested, I would have; but it was clear that that front was covered. *)
To expand on why I had the reaction I did: Clearly I'm not the only one interpreting "I doubt anyone would" with comments enabled as "Would anyone?". I suppose you can regard that as evidence that it's an effective way of asking without asking, but that doesn't take into account the annoyance factor, for lack of a better term, of needing to interpret in the first place. I don't mind being asked for things, but I think I see it as a trade of favors--if you do me the favor of asking, I'll do you the favor of considering your request--and being put in the position of interpreting and considering the request is annoying. It feels like the other person isn't willing to put in any work at all to get me to consider the request in the first place, much less to consider it favorably, and if my consideration isn't worth your effort, why are you bringing it up with me?
I also find myself... bemused by? skeptical of? your doubt. All these people wouldn't have you on their friends lists if they weren't interested in learning about you. So, bemusement (or skepticism) + annoyance = wiseass.
To offer unasked-for advice: I found making the list to be a really interesting exercise, so even if you were the only one who wanted to read it, I'd recommend doing it anyway. *) The simultaneous sense of "I haven't done 100 things worth listing" and "How do I choose?!" is quite fascinating to experience.
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Date: 2002-12-30 02:21 am (UTC)To be less of a wiseass: If others hadn't responded saying they'd be interested, I would have; but it was clear that that front was covered. *)
To expand on why I had the reaction I did: Clearly I'm not the only one interpreting "I doubt anyone would" with comments enabled as "Would anyone?". I suppose you can regard that as evidence that it's an effective way of asking without asking, but that doesn't take into account the annoyance factor, for lack of a better term, of needing to interpret in the first place. I don't mind being asked for things, but I think I see it as a trade of favors--if you do me the favor of asking, I'll do you the favor of considering your request--and being put in the position of interpreting and considering the request is annoying. It feels like the other person isn't willing to put in any work at all to get me to consider the request in the first place, much less to consider it favorably, and if my consideration isn't worth your effort, why are you bringing it up with me?
I also find myself... bemused by? skeptical of? your doubt. All these people wouldn't have you on their friends lists if they weren't interested in learning about you. So, bemusement (or skepticism) + annoyance = wiseass.
To offer unasked-for advice: I found making the list to be a really interesting exercise, so even if you were the only one who wanted to read it, I'd recommend doing it anyway. *) The simultaneous sense of "I haven't done 100 things worth listing" and "How do I choose?!" is quite fascinating to experience.