Ramblings of an itinerant rocket scientist...

Smaller and/or more-conventionally attractive women tend to be hit-upon sufficiently often that they have defenses and barriers in place, designed to deflect would-be suitors. This alone makes them hard to get to know as friends... if some guy walks up to them, they're typically in "he's only after one thing" mode unless demonstrated otherwise. Or unless the guy's attributes are so interesting that the woman in question lowers those defenses a bit and actually communicates. But the latter case hasn't applied to me, hence "out of my league"...