to both provide him an opening into the pile if he wanted it, and to allow him room to say, "Oh no, I'm fine over here."
That was very kind and considerate! Most people would have ignored him, or left him hanging.
salacious comments would be out of place unless you knew all the folks in the pile well
Not the case last night. Although my definition of "salacious" would be along the lines of "hmm, looks like you guys are having a good time" or "that's efficient use of floorspace!"
Maybe if you're uncomfortable around them Sometimes, both because I don't know how to react and because it amplifies my feeling like an outsider... the closer a group is, the more isolated I feel watching it. Something like that...
being on the outside if I'll get to cuddle with someone I really like
That makes sense... although personally, I couldn't simply join a pile, even on the outside, unless I thought that I'd be welcomed (explicit invitation, as for the guy you mentioned).
I've actually never been in a puppy pile at a party... the closest equivalents in the past two decades were the amoeba-like things at PPPs, and once sitting with a group watching a video at runeshower's place. So the concept is novel, and appropriate behaviors are unclear.
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Date: 2003-06-22 10:25 pm (UTC)That was very kind and considerate! Most people would have ignored him, or left him hanging.
salacious comments would be out of place unless you knew all the folks in the pile well
Not the case last night. Although my definition of "salacious" would be along the lines of "hmm, looks like you guys are having a good time" or "that's efficient use of floorspace!"
Maybe if you're uncomfortable around them
Sometimes, both because I don't know how to react and because it amplifies my feeling like an outsider... the closer a group is, the more isolated I feel watching it. Something like that...
being on the outside if I'll get to cuddle with someone I really like
That makes sense... although personally, I couldn't simply join a pile, even on the outside, unless I thought that I'd be welcomed (explicit invitation, as for the guy you mentioned).
I've actually never been in a puppy pile at a party... the closest equivalents in the past two decades were the amoeba-like things at PPPs, and once sitting with a group watching a video at