(May I just say "Aargh! LJ's comment forum is a really awkward way to deal conversations that involve quoting lots of bits and interspersing comments in them and continuing the chain. Sigh." But we deal. And this 4300-character limit is an annoyance, too.)
[passionate kissing as performance art] That left me in a context bind... to watch (performance art) or ignore them (privacy)? It was uncomfortable for me, in that setting.
For me, it's in some ways a learned skill not to find it uncomfortable. And still takes a conscious realigning of my initial reaction, sometimes.
[touch-interacting to small extents] Okay, but that's a foreign reference for me... I don't know what that means, in a group setting. Only one-on-one. Unless one counts being crammmed into subway cars with one's face pushed into a stranger's back, that sort of thing.
I think possibly a more common example (and one that doesn't require polyamory) is two people sitting snuggled up together reading separate books. Although that still may be a foreign reference; I dunno.
[touching as distraction] Hmm... I find touch distracting to a conversation, when I'm talking to someone. I feel like I'm not getting their full attention... there wasn't much, if anything overtly sexual going on, kisses aside, but just the existence of touching had a dampening effect on any conversing with the touchees.
Again, I suspect this may be something that involves (or has involved) conscious thought-realignment on my part. But it also depends on what touching is going on; some of it involves focus, while some of it's just absent-minded hand motions -- it's more the latter that tend to not really be interruptions to attention.
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Date: 2003-06-23 10:48 pm (UTC)[passionate kissing as performance art]
That left me in a context bind... to watch (performance art) or ignore them (privacy)? It was uncomfortable for me, in that setting.
For me, it's in some ways a learned skill not to find it uncomfortable. And still takes a conscious realigning of my initial reaction, sometimes.
[touch-interacting to small extents]
Okay, but that's a foreign reference for me... I don't know what that means, in a group setting. Only one-on-one. Unless one counts being crammmed into subway cars with one's face pushed into a stranger's back, that sort of thing.
I think possibly a more common example (and one that doesn't require polyamory) is two people sitting snuggled up together reading separate books. Although that still may be a foreign reference; I dunno.
[touching as distraction]
Hmm... I find touch distracting to a conversation, when I'm talking to someone. I feel like I'm not getting their full attention... there wasn't much, if anything overtly sexual going on, kisses aside, but just the existence of touching had a dampening effect on any conversing with the touchees.
Again, I suspect this may be something that involves (or has involved) conscious thought-realignment on my part. But it also depends on what touching is going on; some of it involves focus, while some of it's just absent-minded hand motions -- it's more the latter that tend to not really be interruptions to attention.
(cont.)