Delayed gratification?

[jay]

For the sixth year in a row, I will have my birthday (7/22) while I'm up in the Arctic. In some ways, that's one of the best possible places -- in a wilderness, freezing in a tent with a good bottle of Scotch -- but patgreene and the kids usually want to have a cake and a couple of small gifts for me here. But timing is unclear... better to celebrate it early, ignore it, or after I return (two weeks belatedly)? My son Kevin turns seven a few days after I'm scheduled to return, which complicates that option. But I leave in only a few days. What's your opinion?

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Comments

tough question

[shadopanther.livejournal.com]

What's Kevin's opinion?

-- Shadopanther

[boubabe.livejournal.com]

My first instinct is to celebrate it afterwards. I would ask Kevin, though, if that was okay with him. He's got to deal with "sharing" his birthday time and if he doesn't want to, then it could ruin the whole thing.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

If we did it immediately afterwards, there would be a week's spacing before Kevin's party... and Kevin doesn't mind.

Re: tough question

[anisoptera.livejournal.com]

I too, think this is what is most important to making the decision.

Re: tough question

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

That's exactly the first thing I wondered. Would Kevin like a combined party? If not, celebrate before. If so, celebrate afterwards with Kevin.

Re: tough question

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Good option. Ask Kevin.

And either way--embrace the power of AND: drink quietly in your tent, AND have a b-day cake before or after the trip!