Non-sexual reasons for event gender balance

Recently, a local mailing list has been discussing workshops and events requiring secrecy about goings-on. HAI workshops have been often cited, although there have been others. Thread-drift has taken it into a debate on gender-balancing, with the practice being questioned -- or at least regarded as a het meet-market provision rather than something germane to dealing with emotional intimacy. I have perfectly valid reasons for requiring gender-balance that have nothing to do with finding new relationships...

( Repost of my letter to the local list )

In other personal news...

In nine days, I've lost the four pounds that I gained in Spain. Some of that must have been retained water, and I'm still 7 lbs. over my long-term plateau weight. Reducing lunches to a piece of cheese has helped, as has lots of exercise over the past week. And I've tightened my arms and pecs with some weightlifting, and begun to get my abs back under control. Not back in shape by any means, but progress.

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Happy birthday to rivka!

(who I wish I knew better...)