an observation

[jay]

From a comment of mine in another journal... my own internal model still equates expression-of-interest = sexual-harrassment, not something I'd easily do. Presumed harmful to the other person until/unless proven otherwise. Consequently, in my life I've only set that model aside and made the first move once... the rest of the time, I've typically waited for the other person(s) to take that risk, or else mutually tip-toed laterally towards each other over the course of months.