Since sinboy has put it better then I would have, I'll just chime in with a "metoo" on this one.
BTW.. I think this falls under the "parents do this" blanket too- what you may be expected to do for your children is not what the rest of the world expects you to do for them. It's a different relationship, in dependance, in power balance, and in all sorts of other ways.
You've hit on something. There's a buried arrogance inherent in my approach... a sort of "I'm the grown-up, you guys are the wayward, irresponsible teenagers" attitude.
And at the same time, I see a lot of "It's other peoples' responsibility to notice when I'm upset and help me out, not mine to communicate it" in what you do, which reminds me of a baby crying and the parents having to figure out by trial and error whether that means "feed me" or "change me" or "I'm lonely" or "I felt like crying, what are you all worried about?".
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Date: 2004-04-16 07:01 pm (UTC)BTW.. I think this falls under the "parents do this" blanket too- what you may be expected to do for your children is not what the rest of the world expects you to do for them. It's a different relationship, in dependance, in power balance, and in all sorts of other ways.
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