If I'm not holding her responsible for putting me out, or claiming future consideration in return, then it doesn't affect her and she has no need to know...
Need to, no. Would prefer to, certainly. I tend to err on the "would prefer to know about it" for putting myself out in a substantial way, and my prefernce for what other people would want from me. Just to be clear, no one is denying you have a right to private self denial in service of others, but you did ask about how people react to it.
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Date: 2004-04-19 11:14 pm (UTC)Need to, no. Would prefer to, certainly. I tend to err on the "would prefer to know about it" for putting myself out in a substantial way, and my prefernce for what other people would want from me. Just to be clear, no one is denying you have a right to private self denial in service of others, but you did ask about how people react to it.