I'm reading this as "when I ask, if I get a negative response, I assume I should never ask again."
For me, asking is just that- a request. Not a requirement. Sometimes, the answer is no. Sometimes, when I'm asked, the answer is no. I expect that- I expect my friends to take care of themselves first, or honor other commitments. Them saying no, especially on things like needing a ride, or fixing a bike, is ok.
I can see situations where an unsupported no, from certain people, to specifically critical requests could be a problem. But thise are going to be far, few between, and generally involve pre-negotiated relationships.
That makes sense. And most of my requests come about with either designated-role strangers (airline agents, say) or in relationships, and are as few as I can manage, historically. I have a problem adjusting to asking friends... no is always acceptable. Even expected, actually ;-).
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Date: 2004-04-27 12:21 am (UTC)For me, asking is just that- a request. Not a requirement. Sometimes, the answer is no. Sometimes, when I'm asked, the answer is no. I expect that- I expect my friends to take care of themselves first, or honor other commitments. Them saying no, especially on things like needing a ride, or fixing a bike, is ok.
I can see situations where an unsupported no, from certain people, to specifically critical requests could be a problem. But thise are going to be far, few between, and generally involve pre-negotiated relationships.
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Date: 2004-05-01 06:45 am (UTC)