Just make it Monday, please
Jun. 18th, 2004 08:53 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jayI often dread weekends... this one perhaps a bit more than usual. Today... yes/no decision on funding the Arctic field season at 11am. Then couples-counselling tonight. I wish I'd lined up lunch today, but have been too preoccupied to plan ahead. Tomorrow night... no plans. Some slightly-stressful socializing with the kids in the afternoon. Should have planned ahead, again. Sunday... Father's Day... no plans (sound familiar? heh) other than I need to confront the issues around my father's illness again and give him a call.
Why do other people look forward to weekends? For me, work is generally more satisfying and less stressful... still, three days and it will be over, thankfully.
Why do other people look forward to weekends? For me, work is generally more satisfying and less stressful... still, three days and it will be over, thankfully.
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Date: 2004-06-18 04:01 pm (UTC)Because I don't have to get out of bed at 8 AM and trek 20+ miles to the office, and I don't have to sit in on one of the millions of conference calls. It's my chance to get done all the stuff I can't get done during the week because I just don't have time. And because I have a couple of days with nothing necessarily planned.
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Date: 2004-06-18 04:18 pm (UTC)Feel free to come my way and visit!
Z
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Date: 2004-06-18 04:26 pm (UTC)Now, weekends are a time to spend with loved ones, and to do personal projects that can't be done during the work week.
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Date: 2004-06-18 04:31 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-06-18 04:32 pm (UTC)weekends.
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Date: 2004-06-18 04:52 pm (UTC)If it doesn't feel that way for you, you might think about making some changes. I bet it would make you a happier person!
-J
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Date: 2004-06-18 04:53 pm (UTC)As for weekends, it is time to spend with my family. Also time to get some stuff done (generally around the house) that didn't get accomplished during the week. It's a time to wake up late & (at least have the option to) make blueberry pancakes with the kids. It's a time to relax & read a book. Go on a hike/bike ride. Etc. I thoroughly look forward to spending time with D on the weekend... and if I read in his journal that he was dreading being home & preferred being either at work or out of town, I'd be crushed. I'm sorry you're feeling bad, but you are not alone in your life.
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Date: 2004-06-18 06:09 pm (UTC)Am I right about that?
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Date: 2004-06-18 06:35 pm (UTC)Weekends have been times I've traditionally looked forward to having time to myself or with people I care about. Being able to go to the beach for a few hours without having to answer to anyone, and turning the cellphone off. Being able to create art or write personal stories. Hiking. Swimming. Going to picnics and BBQs. I love summer weekends in particular, usually.
I suggest that you find some way to look forward to weekends. Maybe you can take up a hobby or attend some classes -- Spanish, perhaps? Something that would be appealing to you or might come in handy in your personal life and work.
Weekends don't have to suck. At least, not all of them.
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Date: 2004-06-18 08:00 pm (UTC)I do, however, look forward to weekends. I look forward to the change of pace, having more control over my time, the opportunity to do stuff I want to do that's not work, as well as the opportunity to socialize or seek out non-social entertainment. I don't see worktime as "me" time, so having an official "not day job" break (which is what the weekend is to me) gives me more potential "me" time. And, since I don't have many obligations to other people or other things, a great deal of it usually is "me" time. I like that.
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Date: 2004-06-18 10:35 pm (UTC)My Saturday mornings, which generally start with my yoga class, followed by a scone or similar and coffee at a local bakery and a trip to the wonderful used book store nearby.
The role-playing game I'm in runs 2 Saturdays a month; this is one of them.
Sundays are church, morning and evening services.
Once a month or so I have a con-com meeting on Sunday afternoon; that was last weekend.
Things unique to this weekend: taking the mystery kitty to the vet for a chip check and general check-up, a friend's birthday thing, and I'm planning to visit the county fair Sunday afternoon and see how my entry did.
I'll probably call my dad on Saturday because Sunday schedules are hard to coordinate due to time differences.
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Date: 2004-06-19 01:41 am (UTC)Re: weekends.
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Date: 2004-06-19 01:49 am (UTC)And true, I'm not alone... but I don't feel I can go on a hike or sleep late or read, either, unless I *am* alone for some reason. And the kid-noise can be deafening in a small house, with the TV blaring and kids fighting and toys crashing...
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Date: 2004-06-19 01:57 am (UTC)That's much more likely to be possible for me on a Tuesday than a Sunday...
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Date: 2004-06-19 02:24 am (UTC)Is there a way you can work towards similar balance in your weekends? Set aside a few hours that are consistently your time, like my Saturday mornings are? A time you can choose to use in other ways, but others can't take away from you without an extremely high priority reason?
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Date: 2004-06-19 05:22 am (UTC)Although I think it might benefit you to start having some time where nothing is structured, so you have no "I should be doing X, Y and Z right now". It's often typical of folks like us that we want our lives completely totally absolutely preplanned out to the millisecond so we never have to worry about what we "should" be doing.
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Date: 2004-06-21 03:57 am (UTC)I think you may want to examine that and see if it's functional or not.
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Date: 2004-06-21 08:19 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-06-21 02:19 pm (UTC)There's a difference between saying "I'm taking time for myself this weekend doing X and Y," and simply disappearing.
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Date: 2004-06-21 03:32 pm (UTC)I'm not Pat, but if you pulled such a stunt on me the locks would've been changed by the time you got home. Taking time for yourself is a very good thing, and you certainly seem to need to do it right about now. You don't, however, have to be a jerk about it when you do.
Dear, I know you're really stressed out about stuff at home and your father's health issues, but you don't need to take it out on people who care about you and treat them like crap. Asking for help is much more productive than throwing temper tantrums.
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Date: 2004-06-21 04:06 pm (UTC)And who could I have asked for help, yesterday? Even those near and dear are looking at the mess here and stepping back...