Just make it Monday, please

[jay]

I often dread weekends... this one perhaps a bit more than usual. Today... yes/no decision on funding the Arctic field season at 11am. Then couples-counselling tonight. I wish I'd lined up lunch today, but have been too preoccupied to plan ahead. Tomorrow night... no plans. Some slightly-stressful socializing with the kids in the afternoon. Should have planned ahead, again. Sunday... Father's Day... no plans (sound familiar? heh) other than I need to confront the issues around my father's illness again and give him a call.

Why do other people look forward to weekends? For me, work is generally more satisfying and less stressful... still, three days and it will be over, thankfully.

Comments

[griffen.livejournal.com]

It's also the best way to get your wife and kids to resent you for taking off without an announcment.

I think you may want to examine that and see if it's functional or not.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Time for myself is *my* boundary...

[griffen.livejournal.com]

Yes, but there are ways to go about it that don't involve upsetting the people you love with it.

There's a difference between saying "I'm taking time for myself this weekend doing X and Y," and simply disappearing.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(shrug) If I hadn't had a plea for help at work today and tomorrow, yesterday I had reservations for a ticket out of the country. Subsequently cancelled at work yesterday when I realized I was needed here at least Monday and Tuesday or the Arctic field test season would likely be aborted. I wasn't going to tell Pat where I was until I was enroute (and thence unreachable).

[geekchick]

I wasn't going to tell Pat where I was until I was enroute (and thence unreachable).

I'm not Pat, but if you pulled such a stunt on me the locks would've been changed by the time you got home. Taking time for yourself is a very good thing, and you certainly seem to need to do it right about now. You don't, however, have to be a jerk about it when you do.

Dear, I know you're really stressed out about stuff at home and your father's health issues, but you don't need to take it out on people who care about you and treat them like crap. Asking for help is much more productive than throwing temper tantrums.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Considering how much pent-up anger I have at Pat, after she's thrown my life into chaos over the past five weeks... she may care for me, but she has funny ways of showing it. As far as I'm concerned, she's working out her own insecurities by trying to impose controls on my behavior, so I find it hard to be... considerate when pushing back on those controls.

And who could I have asked for help, yesterday? Even those near and dear are looking at the mess here and stepping back...