Mixed reactions

[jay]

Today usually provokes a mixed response... I'm happy to see the expressions of pride and community and love and the free expression of these. While at the same time, at a personal level reminding me that I'm marginal, an outsider. Too mundane to be at a Pride parade, too weird to be welcomed enthusiastically in parent groups or at church... not fitting well anywhere, really.

I hope that my many participating friends have a beautiful day marching or watching, as well as those up at the Loving More conference at Harbin. For me, I'll be at home working on rewiring electrical circuits and fixtures...

Comments

[purplecthulhu.livejournal.com]

So your default position on anything like this is 'not included' with the 'slightly negative' connotations that that includes, and the only way to change that is to be specifically invited. Getting that invitation may well be a problem, and might lead to misunderstandings when no such invitation is needed - as in a Pride march.

Really Brian, you're old enough that you should be able to get away from the metaprogramming delivered by a bunch of ignorant jocks in high school - or whoever else induced this behaviour - and you're intelligent enough that you should realise that you're just replaying these games *in the way that the people who victimised you want you to keep replaying them*.

Stop being their victim 35 years on!

[Being blunt because I think you need it, but hugs are available as well].

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

To be specifically invited, yes, or (more recently) to ask to join someone or some group.

*some* information is necessary... I wouldn't have even known where in SF to find the parade today! Let alone where to park, or if there was an requested donation.

What other games would you suggest, as a substitute?

[purplecthulhu.livejournal.com]

Communication is a two way process - provide some information freely and you may get some back...

As to other games, try *anything* that is *your* choice, not that of the people who victimised you in your childhood.

[trinker.livejournal.com]

Umm...Brian, you're a whiz at finding information ad hoc, as evidenced by what you managed just this past week at work, right? You could have maybe googled for the info? (Whether it was reliable, that might have been an issue, but I'm sure you could have found good info about Pride by looking online.)

[geekchick]

*some* information is necessary...

*ahem*

Google holds the answer you seek.