followup on the sexual abuse survivor meme

[jay]

Actually, my first sexual experiences with both men and women were nonconsensual... both older than I by a couple of years. At 20, a woman at MIT who (I found out years later) specifically targeted geeky virgins (she rationalized that she was really doing them a favor ! ). At 14, a gay teen in the neighborhood who lured me into a vacant lot, wrestled and bound me under an old car trunk lid. I was afterward rabidly homophobic for a decade or so afterwards... I'm still working on being emotionally close to members of my own gender, but it is hard. And not being cautious and guarded around sexuality in general.

So, it happens to men, too, and there are lasting effects to be addressed, just as with women survivors. But I'm determined that it won't dominate or ruin the rest of my life.