disengagement?

[jay]

To withdraw from some local communities and circles, or not... that question seems pressing, right now. It could be self-defeating. But better to walk away than to stand around on various peripheries, feeling excluded and unwanted. Whining and fuming is unattractive and internally unhealthy, in the longer term. I suppose that I have to assess the likelihood of future non-peripheral participation vs. the emotional risks of waiting...

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[brian1789.livejournal.com]

Hmm... my experience has been that once people know how I've felt, they'll change their behavior... but to withdraw, thereby exacerbating the issue and triggering a negative cycle. So I have an incentive to hide those feelings, until they build up and some leak out.