That settles it...

[jay]

I've already restarted workouts and skating over the past two weeks... I need to start skipping meals again. Must lose the 6-7 lbs I've regained since mid-July... When those close to me begin agreeing with me that I'm out of shape and not particularly physically attractive, that's time to fully mobilize. No breakfast for me ;).

Comments

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Thank you, Cathy.

Brian, sometimes you drive me insane.

Lack of comment DOES NOT EQUATE with agreement. Sheesh. Write it down mathematically if you have to. For pity's sake--you were complaining about having picked up weight while we were in Spain. Who am I to disagree with your statement that you had, then?

And while I don't disagree with anything that who_is_she said about your appearance, I do feel that she sort of bought into a bad pattern of yours. You know, the one where you complain about how awful and unattractive you are (usually socially, but this still fits), and then everyone has to jump in and tell you that no, you're wonderful just so you don't feel like committing suicide. I didn't comment because I didn't want to engage in that pattern, that's all.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

There are some topics where direct communication doesn't work well, IMO, appearance being one. People are often unwilling to say what they're thinking. If I posit something as its negation, people are much more likely to say what they're thinking, either by agreeing with me (lower stress) or disagreeing (but being complimentary, hence lower-stress on them).