I see the support of my sweeties as something I need to do well, if I'm going to continue to merit their affection and attention. It is detached from whatever I may or may not be getting out of a given relationship. When I'm not getting much out, it is a net burden, but one I choose/have chosen.
just because I'm not having sexual fun with them doesn't mean I'm not having any at all.
Okay, granted one could be cooking or reading or hang-gliding while one's partner and their new SO are making out like crazed weasels, so maybe both of you are having fun. But what I meant (but was too sqeamish to be blunt) was that one accrues the additional sexual disease risk, via one's partner-in-common, without any specifically sexual fun in compensation. Hopefully there will be offsetting compensations, as tolerance of that added risk is IMO a gift given to one's partner.
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Date: 2004-10-24 08:19 pm (UTC)just because I'm not having sexual fun with them doesn't mean I'm not having any at all.
Okay, granted one could be cooking or reading or hang-gliding while one's partner and their new SO are making out like crazed weasels, so maybe both of you are having fun. But what I meant (but was too sqeamish to be blunt) was that one accrues the additional sexual disease risk, via one's partner-in-common, without any specifically sexual fun in compensation. Hopefully there will be offsetting compensations, as tolerance of that added risk is IMO a gift given to one's partner.