Well... true, but so far I've always returned, after some period of time.
Hmmm... I'd think that logically I'd be more motivated to actually pursue a sweetie who's just been with a new OSO, for competitive reasons... but instead, I find myself less interested, at least physically and emotionally, for some period of time afterward. Almost as though they're rendered ritually impure or unclean by the new contact, and I have to wait for some time before they're approachable... or subconsciously waiting to see if my beloved breaks out in a rash (or is pregnant) before I approach them again. This seems to be a general reaction on my part, only overruled in the past if I'm actually part of some multiple-person scene with a partner and zir other(s).
Maybe it is tied to some evolutionary reflex to not want to raise someone else's child, I'm just speculating...
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Date: 2004-10-25 02:05 am (UTC)Hmmm... I'd think that logically I'd be more motivated to actually pursue a sweetie who's just been with a new OSO, for competitive reasons... but instead, I find myself less interested, at least physically and emotionally, for some period of time afterward. Almost as though they're rendered ritually impure or unclean by the new contact, and I have to wait for some time before they're approachable... or subconsciously waiting to see if my beloved breaks out in a rash (or is pregnant) before I approach them again. This seems to be a general reaction on my part, only overruled in the past if I'm actually part of some multiple-person scene with a partner and zir other(s).
Maybe it is tied to some evolutionary reflex to not want to raise someone else's child, I'm just speculating...