jay: (contemplative)
jay ([personal profile] jay) wrote2004-10-22 08:37 am

Outside the village...

I'm frankly envious of parents with community support... for example, [personal profile] dawnd and [personal profile] akienm are able to find a series of sitters for Allegra so that they could go to a weekend workshop in LA. Without having to, say, fly in Dawn's mother from back East... it's great for them, and I think they'll add a lot to that workshop. But I know that I couldn't do the same thing, and that Pat and I are pretty much on our own as far as child-raising goes... no net, here. When crises have hit, my only option has been to fly in one or the other grandmothers for a while, and/or take vacation time and stay home as well.

Still, that's a natural consequence of not being a part of any particular community, other than sort of tolerated on the fringes... I have only myself to reproach, arguably, for not giving enough or conforming sufficiently.

Re: Helping to chisel away at the *outsider* bubble...

[identity profile] brian1789.livejournal.com 2004-10-23 01:45 am (UTC)(link)
(nods) Even in a pinch, it is hard to find one. Usually Pat or I trade staying home with the kids... sometimes James can watch them.

Re: Helping to chisel away at the *outsider* bubble...

[identity profile] frankenboob.livejournal.com 2004-10-23 07:07 pm (UTC)(link)
I think the point is that (most) everyone has difficulty finding a babysitter.