Wait, let me get this straight....you're mad about someone giving you a jaunty/bantery parting instead of saying what you think she *should* have said, at 5:30 am?
You would so have been lucky to get more than a grunt and a snarl out of me at that hour.
Or, she could have just been joking and trying to lighten the mood. I know if I'm getting on a plane at oh-dark-ungodly, the most important thing on my mind is forgetting how ridiculously early it is.
You know, like when someone says "Don't burn the house down!" - they don't really think you're going to burn the house down, they're just telling you to relax and have a good time.
Unless, of course, you know, you have a history of trying to burn down the house.
In which case all bets are off.
C'mon, Brian. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, you know?
Yes, exactly. And more importantly...if there's two ways to interpret something your partner has said, and one of them makes you mad, go for the other one. That comes from wretched experience.
But seriously, my first response upon reading of Pat's comment was to chuckle and be able to see her saying that, and appreciating it.
Side note to the readers: Brian is spending just about all of Pat's absence with one secondary or another. I think the specific sorts of fun that Pat is imagining he'd like to have and the opportunities that exist for it are an important part of the story.
Side note to sweetie: who me? project my own issues onto other people much? Why, I don't know why you asked? (or, if you prefer the serious answer, I'm personally thankful that she didn't have a much more restrictive injunction.)
I am glad Pat is having a trip away from home. Seeing new sights, and having new experiences is a good thing.
I think she was expressing her true feelings in a lighthearted way. As if to say "I'm compersionate, help me stay that way while enjoying yourself to the fullest!"
I can completely relate to her remark.
Traveling can be stressful, and hellos and goodbyes can be awkward moments. If there is something/are somethings you'd REALLY like her to say to you at a time like that... perhaps that is something you should express to her directly? That way... in the future.. she'll know exactly what you'd like to hear. ? eh?
I think she was expressing her true feelings in a lighthearted way. As if to say "I'm compersionate, help me stay that way while enjoying yourself to the fullest!"
I can completely relate to her remark.
Oh me too, it's exactly the kind of thing I would have said. Like, I'm glad that you've got some fun stuff to look forward to, and I also wish I could get some reassurance that you're not [whatever she's scared of, which is probably not quite what I'm scared of] while I'm away.
Methinks you're probably reading way too much into this, as others have already said. If it were me, you'd be lucky if I did anything other than growl at you at godawful o'clock in the morning. =)
what did you say to her, as she left? I hope as the day is geting older, you're gaining more perspective on the whole thing and feeling better ((hugs))
Brian, I won't venture to guess what she meant by her comment. I would however sugesst that if it is that important to you or that your that stuck with the comment, call her and ask what she meant. It is way to easy to let our imaginations run away with us about what other people mean when comments like that are made. Lots of hugs T
I don't have any time at all -- I just got on to pick up my EP information, and happened to glance at this, so I don't have time to go through the comments. But I would like to make three observations.
1) Prior to my parting words, I had said "I love you" and "I am going to miss you" and you wished me luck in Florida, so I did not feel the need to ask.
2) I was laughing as I said it -- I was teasing you. It may still be significant, but it is misleading to present it as a serious statement. If you took it as such, I am sorry -- I *really* was laughing. Given everything else that I have said okay to about this trip, it is a little unfair of you to jump on me about this.
3) Most importantly, it was five o'clock in the freaking morning.
I wish you did not feel it necessary to go public with every disappointment you have with my behavior.
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Date: 2004-10-30 01:14 pm (UTC)You would so have been lucky to get more than a grunt and a snarl out of me at that hour.
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Date: 2004-10-30 01:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-10-30 01:42 pm (UTC)You know, like when someone says "Don't burn the house down!" - they don't really think you're going to burn the house down, they're just telling you to relax and have a good time.
Unless, of course, you know, you have a history of trying to burn down the house.
In which case all bets are off.
C'mon, Brian. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, you know?
-JEM
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Date: 2004-10-30 01:50 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-10-30 03:37 pm (UTC)But seriously, my first response upon reading of Pat's comment was to chuckle and be able to see her saying that, and appreciating it.
Side note to the readers: Brian is spending just about all of Pat's absence with one secondary or another. I think the specific sorts of fun that Pat is imagining he'd like to have and the opportunities that exist for it are an important part of the story.
Side note to sweetie: who me? project my own issues onto other people much? Why, I don't know why you asked? (or, if you prefer the serious answer, I'm personally thankful that she didn't have a much more restrictive injunction.)
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Date: 2004-10-30 03:51 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-10-30 03:56 pm (UTC)I love you.
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Date: 2004-10-30 03:53 pm (UTC)I think she was expressing her true feelings in a lighthearted way. As if to say "I'm compersionate, help me stay that way while enjoying yourself to the fullest!"
I can completely relate to her remark.
Traveling can be stressful, and hellos and goodbyes can be awkward moments. If there is something/are somethings you'd REALLY like her to say to you at a time like that... perhaps that is something you should express to her directly? That way... in the future.. she'll know exactly what you'd like to hear.
?
eh?
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Date: 2004-10-30 08:42 pm (UTC)I can completely relate to her remark.
Oh me too, it's exactly the kind of thing I would have said. Like, I'm glad that you've got some fun stuff to look forward to, and I also wish I could get some reassurance that you're not [whatever she's scared of, which is probably not quite what I'm scared of] while I'm away.
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Date: 2004-10-30 04:38 pm (UTC)our of curiosity ...
Date: 2004-10-30 06:50 pm (UTC)Stop guessing
Date: 2004-10-30 11:38 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 09:14 pm (UTC)1) Prior to my parting words, I had said "I love you" and "I am going to miss you" and you wished me luck in Florida, so I did not feel the need to ask.
2) I was laughing as I said it -- I was teasing you. It may still be significant, but it is misleading to present it as a serious statement. If you took it as such, I am sorry -- I *really* was laughing. Given everything else that I have said okay to about this trip, it is a little unfair of you to jump on me about this.
3) Most importantly, it was five o'clock in the freaking morning.
I wish you did not feel it necessary to go public with every disappointment you have with my behavior.
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Date: 2004-11-05 01:02 am (UTC)