persistence

[jay]

Events over the past couple of weeks have illuminated for me that I do have "a type"... the people with whom I have some level of involvement (primary, secondaries, tocotox) do in fact share certain characteristics. They're all bright, have diverse interests, and all well-educated, granted, but what I've noticed recently is that they tend to have a certain stubborn streak. Persistence... tenaciousness, even the occasional moments when third-parties accuse them of pig-headedness or bloody-mindedness. It may be vocally apparent, or more subtle, but I've seen it with all of them. I tend to not attract/pursue the mercurial, flakes, notch-gatherers or those seeking merely a good time in passing. Or those who just don't have enough interest in itinerant scientists, or energy in their lives to hold on for the long ride...

Which is a good thing, as staying in some flavor of relationship with me probably requires it. I'm under no illusions that I'm easy to love, or to maintain a connection. And I can be demanding, stumble into drama, am working on my own past personal scars, and generally sometimes try the patience of my sweeties in a variety of ways. They obviously must think I'm worth it ;-)

Thanks, to all of you.

Comments

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

you're incredibly worth it. Very, very much so.

Yes, sometimes there is the "this is as annoying as all fuck, but I sure as hell am not going to let go of someone this good just because of it."

I love you. I feel valued because you're willing to work through some of this muck with me, even the not-easy muck when I'm going from one sort of tidepool animal to another (clingy limpet to ultra-vulnerable soft-shell crab). Just do me a favor and don't throw me back into the ocean, okay? (grin)

[dangerpudding.livejournal.com]

Yes, sometimes there is the "this is as annoying as all fuck, but I sure as hell am not going to let go of someone this good just because of it."

Y'know, I think I *require* some amount of this in any partner. It helps keep me grounded and reminded that they are just as human as I am. :)

[griffen.livejournal.com]

The level of self-awareness that this post indicates is wonderful growth from you, Brian. I would not have expected to see it two years ago, or even one year ago. You've come a long, long way, and it shows. :)

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Agreed wholeheartedly.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

You've helped. =)

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

(blush) I wasn't fishing in this post, honest... but thanks for the feedback.

[griffen.livejournal.com]

And I didn't think you were fishing. It was an honest compliment. :)

[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

I suppose one might consider me too complicated to explain? *ggls*

I think that this self-acceptance is a big step for you. This shows you know and accept who you are, flaws and all, and are in touch with what you require in a relationship. Go you!

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

LOL... that'd be one possible description of our complex levels of interaction. And thanks!

[vokzal.livejournal.com]

This is just way to sappy sweet!

I suppose that's ok.

Now I have a box of green rocks here... "Oooo shiny!" (Or not, as the case may be.) Don't you want to see my box of presumed not-jade? Or do I have to come up with better bait?

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

oooh, green-and-shiny!

[dangerpudding.livejournal.com]

I'm somewhere in the friend/tocotox range, I expect, if anywhere. But, I want to point out to you that this stubborn streak is required to meet your own, very deep, very focused, stubborn self. :)

I may not be a sweetie, but you're more than worth it as a friend. (It's really good to see you recognizing that, too. Yay!)